The Look Good Feel Better Blog
Today we bring you the third installment from our guest blogger Jane Wilkens Michael, host of the Jane Wilkens Michael Show…Better Than Before.
During this holiday season many years ago I discovered my mission – my passion – in life. I found that in helping others to become Better Than Before, I might truly make a difference. And for my family, friends, readers and CBS radio audience, it is the gift that has kept on giving. I am continually inspired whenever they thank me for guiding them, either in person, print or on the air, onward and upward on the Ladder to a Better Quality of life, as part of their journey to looking and feeling Better Than Before.
I find it particularly encouraging, though, when the cancer survivors among them tell me how they are now able to view themselves in a new light, even after all they have endured. “Physically, emotionally and spiritually I may have been through the ringer,” one breast cancer survivor recently shared with me. “But I truly surprised myself that I emerged on the other side a much stronger person.” She told me that she now has a far greater appreciation for life and how simple acts of kindness can be so empowering. “I am also looking through a different lens now and I am grateful for that. Even my scars don’t have a negative connection anymore. They remind me of everything I’ve been through and I’m still here. I no longer focus on how sick and weak I was, but how strong I am now.”
It is important to remember that the road to a better quality of life is paved with the small decisions that we make each day. Lasting benefits rarely come from dramatic changes. Therefore, start by taking baby steps. And find a task that you know you are able to easily accomplish. Even the smallest action you can do to move forward creates the positive momentum that propels you up the Better Than Before ladder.
Think of the Japanese word Kaizen. It is actually made up of two words, “kai” meaning change, and ‘zen’ to make good or make better. Therefore, we should make an effort to continuously improve each day through tiny, incremental changes. Granted, depression, anxiety and stress are always hovering around. It’s how we handle those challenges, however, that makes us succeed — or succumb! Try to focus on what’s positive in your world and not dwell on what could go wrong. I found that most life-altering events, good or bad, can help us progress on the path to where we want to go. So even if they are not what we expected, it’s important to learn from them and become a stronger person because of them. No matter what we are dealt in life, we can find a way to work through it. Never give up.
Start by simply visualizing a twelve- rung ladder. Then familiarize yourself with each of the Lifestyle Disciplines — in other words, the Rungs. Think of a quick tip for each that you have found helpful or would like to try. For example, was there a makeup suggestion from the Look Good Feel Better website? Or a recipe that you could slip into the Creative Rung? For the Healthy Home Rung, try reciting this mantra as soon as you wake up: Every day in every way I am feeling Better Than Before. For the Support Rung, saying “I love you”—whether to your spouse, a friend, your caregiver or your kids—is a bona fide mood lifter and stress reducer. And when you say “thank you,” you increase your optimism and boost your immune system.
So with the New Year rapidly approaching, remember to let go of all anger and resentment; and, most importantly, try to be kind to yourself – after all, you’re the only self you have! Finally, as you begin your climb, never forget three important life lessons: Love deeply, forgive quickly, and above all, try to become just a little Better Than Before.
LGFB is excited to have another guest post by Jane Wilkens Michael, host of the Jane Wilkens Michael Show…Better Than Before. Here is part two of her four part installment for LGFB!
Even after being told by your oncologist that you are free of any visible signs of disease, you still may be left to cope with psychological, physical, social and spiritual setbacks, along with all the accompanying issues and anxieties. And you well may be asking: “What do I do now?”
The Better Than Before program features a unique visualization technique, a 12-rung symbolic ladder. Each rung represents an important lifestyle change – a Lifestyle Discipline —in a specific area and delivers a wealth of information to help you relax, renew, and replenish. Indeed, the rungs cover all the diverse quality-of-life challenges that you might confront on a daily basis.
The purpose of the ladder is two-fold. Not only is each rung loaded with advice from doctors and lifestyle experts, but you can take suggestions from all the other valuable sources available to you — such as those on the Look Good Feel Better site —and pop them into one of the appropriate rungs. So if you are overwhelmed and unable to process even one more piece of information, it’s an easy and effective way to file all the data and integrate it into your everyday life.
Here’s how the ladder works: Grab onto each rung, each day, choosing but one easy lifestyle tip at a time and visualize yourself, with very little effort, beginning your climb to a better quality of life. The goal is to make each day — and in some cases, each hour — a little Better Than Before.
While the concept is extremely simple, when used every day, separately and in combination, each rung becomes a powerful force that gives guidance and encouragement, which leads to hope and a renewed sense of self, energy, and enthusiasm.
Here is a brief summary set of rungs of what a starter ladder might include:
1) Doctor’s Orders: Better health, mental and physical, begins with proper medical care. If you’ve been prescribed a medication, follow the recommended course fully, even after your symptoms have disappeared. Express Scripts members can talk to a specialty pharmacist by calling the member number on their card. For others looking for more information about cancer treatment, adherence and other key topics, visit lab.express-scripts.com.
2) Emotional Health: Life is challenging, but the one thing we can control completely is our own thoughts. Make them work for you. Today — and every day – make an effort to choose happiness.
3) Nutrition: A healthy breakfast is your power meal, the most important anti-fatigue and anti-anxiety tool. Always consider your supermarket your lifestyle pharmacy. Be sure to check all labels for chemical additives: If you can’t pronounce it, don’t buy it.
4) Fitness: Start your fitness program slowly. Just go for a ten-minute walk before or after breakfast if you haven’t been exercising regularly.
5) Beauty: Glance in the mirror and say just one thing that you like about yourself. The Look Good Feel Better website offers great advice from so many experts, and it’s just a click away.
6) Natural Remedies: Take a moment to stop everything, sit in a relaxing position, close your eyes and focus on your breath. Slowly, steadily, breathe in and out through your nose, feeling calming warm air on each exhale. Now bring to mind and visualize a place that you always found the most peaceful.
7) Support: Happiness is contagious so don’t forget to smile. It will encourage others do so in return.
8) Spirituality: Thank your higher power for giving you this day, and don’t be afraid to ask for help for any other problem that might turn up, no matter how big or small.
9) Creativity: Think of one thing you wish to do today that will bring joy into your life—then make a plan to accomplish it.
10) Healthy Home: Make a small part of your home into your private sanctuary. Visit it daily and repeat a mantra, such as: “I have the wisdom, the power, and the courage to become Better Than Before.”
11) Reward: Your first reward is simply knowing that you have taken positive steps forward by using your ladder this morning. It will inspire you to do more on a regular basis. Look back on what you’ve accomplished. Enjoy it, savor it.
12) Giving Back: Tell your caregiver that you are planning on having a wonderful day and ask if he or she would like to join you.
See you next month with more. Till then, as I say as a sign off on my radio show — Be Wise. Be Well. Be Better Than Before.
Our executive director Louanne Roark was recently interviewed by Jane Wilkens Michael, host of the Jane Wilkens Michael Show…Better Than Before, on CBS Radio, The Sky. We are thrilled to have Jane as a guest blogger over the next few months. Below is part one of her four part installment on the LGFB blog. Enjoy!
I first came up with the concept of Better Than Before years ago, when I was writing the “Beauty Talk” column for Town & Country Magazine. At that time, I became involved with a cosmetic and fragrance industry initiative called Look Good…Feel Better that I learned helped women cancer patients improve their appearance and self-image by teaching them hands-on beauty techniques. The very valid assumption was that when survivors were able to see themselves in a better light, they recovered quicker, both mentally and physically.
Over the next decade, I saw firsthand the amazing opportunities Look Good Feel Better offered survivors who wanted to improve their quality of life but didn’t know where to begin. I realized that those who were either longtime cancer survivors or were dealing with the debilitating effects of their protocol, knew how unrealistic it was to just think happy thoughts, as many well-meaning loved ones and friends encouraged them to do. Alas, brief surges of positivity were often replaced by fears of recurrence or feelings of hopelessness, uncertainty, isolation, fatigue and even guilt.
Taking inspiration from Look Good Feel Better, after writing a book on sport’s nutrition and, most currently, a health, beauty, and fitness column and hosting a weekly lifestyle program on CBS radio, both with a worldwide audience, I also wanted to reach out to this special group of women. My goal, too, was to help them overcome the physical, emotional, spiritual, social and psychological traumas they confronted on a daily basis.
Finding solutions became my passion. Truth be told, it was an unusual endeavor for me, a confirmed hypochondriac who consults a disease-of- the-day calendar (for the curious, today it’s Hives). But I wanted to present survivors with an easy-to-follow, comprehensive system that encompassed a variety of lifestyle techniques that addressed many of their complaints and concerns.
To that end, I worked with a renowned oncologist as well as a three-time, stage-IV survivor. I spoke not only with doctors and lifestyle specialists but with countless survivors themselves – women and men. I discovered that the majority wanted to get off that emotional roller coaster and reclaim their lives. Yet a surprisingly large number often asked: “What do I do now?”
They had every intention of taking a more active role in their own recovery, but at times were too overwhelmed to do so. Therefore, my challenge was to make everything they learned easy to access, organize and process. And thus Better Than Before was born.
Better Than Before features a unique delivery system—a visualization technique — the highlight of which is a symbolic 12-rung ladder that works to help resolve some of the issues that hold survivors back from achieving the quality of life they so desire but never thought possible. Each “rung” represents a key area — a lifestyle discipline —that can be effortlessly incorporated into anyone’s daily routine. .
Next in this series, I will talk about the twelve rungs, give instructions on how to use them, and include a lifestyle tip for each. In the meantime, though, I would like to share an uplifting message from Geralyn Lucas, author of the best-selling Why I Wore Lipstick to My Mastectomy: “I never thought of myself as a brave person,” she told me, “but I had to learn courage during my treatment. I still recall the morning of my mastectomy. I saw the EXIT sign in the hospital and wanted to escape, but I didn’t run away. I got wheeled in, and I think a different person was wheeled out. Courage isn’t something we are born with; it is something that can be discovered during the most terrifying times. Whenever I am faced with anything scary in life, I think about that morning in the O.R. And how, since I did that, I can do anything. I am not afraid anymore.”
“Remember,” she smiled, “just when a caterpillar thinks its life is over, it turns into a butterfly.”
Added another longtime survivor: “Someone once told me I’m still here because I wasn’t afraid of dying. No! I told them. I just wasn’t afraid of living!!”
Cancer survivors are members of a very special “club.” No one can have an appreciation and compassion for life more than someone who has almost lost it. Now is the time to spread your wings like a butterfly, emerge from the cocoon that cancer has put you in, and flutter onward and upward to a quality of life that is Better Than Before.
I’ll be back soon with Part II. Until then….stay well and thrive.
We are so excited to share with you the lovely and heartfelt words of Anjanette below after she observed a workshop a few weeks ago in New York City. Anjanette is the Founder & CEO of SKY and LIVI a jewelry company that empowers women battling cancer by transforming their hair lost in chemo into their very own personal lab-grown diamond. SKY and LIVI has partnered with LGFB and will be donating $100 from the sale of every diamond, and $10 from every bracelet sold to the program in 2013.
Thank you Anjanette for everything you do for the program!
“Last week I had the amazing opportunity to be an observer at a LGFB Workshop at the Hope Lodge in NYC. To say that this experience was special is an understatement. I witnessed four strangers walk into a room with one thing in common - they all had cancer. They had varying personalities, in different stages of treatment and places emotionally, but all walked out of the workshop with another thing in common - HOPE…accented with a beautiful smile of course! Seeing each woman transform themselves before our eyes was magical. Elizabeth, my dear friend and Sarcoma survivor attended with me and we both were so moved to witness this moment. It was even more clear to me how important a role LGFB plays. The act of these four beautiful women transforming themselves and taking the time to learn with other women who are “like them” is something that just can’t be measured. I’m so honored to be a small part in helping LGFB do what they do.”
Want to help Look Good, Feel Better continue to help women feel beautiful and look better every day? Vote for us on the EcoTools Gives Back, Living Beautifully contest and we could win up at $75,000 in grant money from EcoTools.
The contest runs from now until July 5 and you can vote on the EcoTools Facebook page up to FIVE times per day! Happy voting!
Look Good Feel Better would like to give a BIG thank you to Kelsey, who in February 2013 raised over $2,000 for the program by organizing a 5K race in her community. She named her event the HOPE Run, which stands for “Helping to Open People’s Eyes” to the physical and emotional effects of cancer. Kelsey plans on organizing another 5K race in her community soon.
If you or someone you know would like to organize a community event to benefit the LGFB program, please contact email@example.com, so we can help answer your questions and provide you with all the information you need to help make your event a success.
Thank you again Kelsey, we are so touched by your generosity towards others!
Look Good Feel Better is happy to announce that last week, during Look Good Feel Better week, we launched our new online Virtual Makeover Tool and online LGFB Beauty App for iPhones and iPads. We were very excited to demonstrate these new tools at the Oncology Nursing Society’s 38th Annual Congress in Washington D.C. With this new tool and app LGFB can now bring the workshop experience to patients no matter where they are and ultimately encourage more patients to attend an in-person workshop.
The LGFB Virtual Makeover tool provides a step-by-step walk through of the Look Good Feel Better 12-step beauty program, covering a variety of topics from skin care, cosmetic techniques to the use of turbans, hats and wigs and nail care. It also features expert advice in the form of instructional videos from fashion expert Stacy London and celebrity makeup artist Carmindy.
With the tool and app users have the option to use their own image captured through their mobile device or webcam, or use pre loaded images of past LGFB participants, to dynamically demonstrate how to combat the outward side effects of cancer treatment. Users can try on different shades and styles – creating and saving numerous different, unique looks.
You can access the tool by visiting our website, or you can download the iPhone or iPad compatible app by searching “LGFB Beauty” in the app store.
Leading Lady is proud to support Look Good Feel Better and the thousands of women they help to regain confidence while facing cancer. We are inspired by the work that look good feel better is doing for women and we are honored to be a part of the community standing alongside them to help advance their cause, and share their mission.
Many of us know, have known or will know a woman affected by cancer. We are honored to be supporting Look Good Feel Better, and are asking readers, customers, family and friends to join us by helping to raise awareness about this amazing organization and sharing the power of confidence.
Since 1939, my family has been proud to celebrate “Leading Ladies” everywhere through our company’s products, programs and philanthropic activities focused on the health and welfare of women in the communities where we live and work.
Like Look Good Feel Better, Leading Lady’s mission is to improve women’s self esteem and quality of life. At Leading Lady, we do this from the intimates, out. For women undergoing cancer treatment, an experience which may change her body, a properly fitting bra is vital.
Our fit-conscious Director of Design, Haidee Johnstone, shares her tips for achieving the ideal fit, maximizing comfort and ensuring proper support both during and after treatment. Here’s what she has to say…
Proper fit is essential to the health of your breasts. The right fit will help prevent sagging, chafing and keep breasts dry, supported and comfortable in even the most strenuous conditions. Plus, it will give you a lift, both literally and figuratively.
Here are some common signs you may not be wearing the correct size:
- If you can see part of your breasts sticking out of the neckline or the underarm, your bra cup is too small for your breast.
- You should not be using any of the under-bust elastic as part of the cup. If you are, it means the cup is not big enough for your breast.
- The band should sit flush against your chest in front and back without digging into your skin or the cup being wrinkled.
How can you achieve your ideal fit, support & comfort?
- Look at yourself in a mirror. Your breasts should appear supported and centered on your chest.
- Remember that many women are between sizes, so you may need to try a size up or down to get the best fit.
- As your body experiences physical changes, your breast size may also change. Get fitted or fit yourself using an online fit calculator every time you notice a significant change in your body.
- If you have undergone a mastectomy, measure yourself on the side of the remaining breast from center sternum to center spine. Double this measurement and then calculate your fit accordingly.
- Read the fit guide. Every company has their own idea of what represents the best fit so this is a great way to make sure the cup and band sizes are correct for you.
Comfort & Support
- Make sure the shoulder straps of your bra stay in place when you are in motion. If they slip off the shoulder or cut into the shoulder, adjust the straps or try a different size bra.
- Wider and padded shoulder straps will help to keep weight stress dispersed over a larger area for greater comfort. This will reduce pressure on your back and shoulders.
- Adjustable shoulder straps will accommodate your individual needs, depending on your height and the weight of your breasts.
- Select breathable, soft fabrics that will not irritate sensitive skin.
- Try several closure options to find the one that works best for you. If you have limited mobility or sensitive areas on your back, consider a front closing bra.
- Replace your bras when they are worn out and no longer provide the support you need.
We hope Haidee’s fit tips will help women undergoing treatment Look Good Feel Better from their intimates, out.
Guest post by Mark Corrado, President of Leading Lady featuring fit tips from Leading Lady Director of Design Haidee Johnstone
Look Good Feel Better is dedicated to improving the self-esteem and quality of life of people undergoing treatment for cancer.