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teens ask about cancer

Q. Ever since my friends found out that I have cancer, things have been sort of awkward. What can I do to make things as normal as possible with them?

A. Communicate! Let your friends know what’s going on and that it’s ok for them to ask questions. In some cases you might have to be the one to take that first step, which may be intimidating. But once you and your friends get past this, your relationships will most likely return to normal.

Keep in mind that some folks may be uncomfortable talking about cancer, and if this is how it is with some of your friends, be patient and let them approach you.

Being uneasy about a situation like yours is not uncommon. Remember to stay positive and remind yourself that this awkward stage will eventually pass. If it doesn’t, then you’ll know who your real friends are.

Q. How do I deal with losing my hair?

A. First of all, if you do experience hair loss, remember that it’s temporary and that your hair will grow back. Also keep in mind that there are so many things you can do to help yourself look and feel better. Explore using different styles — and even colors — of wigs, bandanas, hats, and other headwear when creating your new look. There’s a section called “Style Finder” on the www.2bMe.org Web site that can give you some ideas. The bottom line: stay positive and be creative!

If you’re considering a wig, there are basically three types you can choose from: synthetic, human hair or a mixture of both. (Human-hair wigs are generally more expensive and harder to maintain than synthetic ones.) You’d be surprised at how many different types of wigs are out there — long, short, curly, straight, layered, and braided in every color imaginable — so take the time to pick the one that’s best for you. Don’t be afraid to ask your stylist any and all questions you might have.

Remember too, not all people lose their hair while undergoing cancer treatment so it may not be an issue.

Q. My doctor says I have to take it easy for a while, which prevents me from doing a lot of the things I used to do. Can I get around this by being extra careful?

A. Although staying active is seen as a positive thing, there are some activities you should stay away from until you get the “ok” from your doctor. For one thing, you may not have the energy to take part in some physical activities especially when you’re going through treatment. Even if you feel like you can play football or Rollerblade, it’s best to take it easy for a while.

If you find yourself with more time on your hands because of this, use the time as an opportunity to explore and try new things. Who knows, you may find out that you’re an amazing cook, gifted artist or talented writer. If you can’t stay away from things like sports, think of different ways you can still stay in the loop — go to games, come up with new plays or be a team manager.

The bottom line is: follow your doctor’s orders even though they may be inconvenient. Your main goal is to do what you can to get better. If that means sitting out of a wrestling match, then that’s what you’re gonna to have to do…at least for a while.

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Misty Bastian, 202-331-1770